Christmas now you have children
Before there were children life was a little different at Christmas. It mostly involved alcoholic drinks, lots of rich food, evenings with family playing games, trips out to the cinema and generally doing whatever we fancied!
As you get older how we see Christmas and how we experience it changes so much. As an older teenager it felt like it just flipped suddenly… I was probably intoxicated a little too much during those years! The magic of Santa and maybe a bit of the excitement seems to fade somewhat as adult responsibilities take over. Once it was the overwhelming happiness of the last day of school, the Christmas holidays were finally here and my dad would be home soon ready for us all to be together. Then years later you have a job in retail and maybe have just one or two days off. You have to negotiate early morning shifts and hangovers!
But then, then something amazing happens. You have your first child. Life has truly gone full circle, now YOU are the magic. Now you are busy making sure that everything is just so – the food is prepared, gifts wrapped, dates to see family organised. Trips to see Santa and Christmas films to be watched. Their first pair of Christmas pajamas and your first Christmas as a Mummy or Daddy. It’s overwhelming, it’s exciting again and it’s exhausting all at once. Now I’m that Mummy with children excited about their last day at school, wow that went so so fast! This year I’m looking forward to getting them involved with the dinner prep just as I did as a child… Lots of pigs in blankets to be made!
It’s all about these three little people –
Here’s some little tips I’ve picked up along the way to help make Christmastime with young children a little easier…
- You don’t have to do everything! It’s hard, you want to make everything perfect for their first Christmas but if someone invites you for dinner accept it! Or if you’re cooking then encourage people to bring part of the dinner with them.
- Discuss your own childhood traditions with your partner ahead of time, maybe make some new ones together! It’s amazing how different our experiences can be but it’s nice to know what’s important to your partner and visa versa.
- Take a time out at family gatherings. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all the family wanting to hold your new baby and they too are becoming unsettled then take some time out just to regroup. A little walk around the block could help and don’t be afraid to set times for people to go home. Slipping out to another room to feed them can be a nice little break too.
- Set aside some days where it’ll just be you and your children. It’s such a busy time and it’s nice to just have some time to chill out with nowhere to be at a set time… You don’t even have to get dressed!
Something will probably go wrong or get forgotten but hey it’s about who you’re with that counts and enjoying their company. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and I can’t wait to see you all next year. I’ll leave you with a quote that I love courtesy of the grinch…
It came without ribbons, it came without bows. It came without packages, boxes or bags. Maybe Christmas, he thought doesn’t come from a store, maybe Christmas perhaps, means a little bit more.