Embracing Motherhood
It’s nearing midnight and I’m sat here in the dark blogging! Crazy perhaps but having returned from a lovely dinner with school mums one subject we talked about got me thinking. It was about how we change from just being us to becoming mums. Of course we are still us, yes my name is actually Sarah not Mummy, Mum or Mama! But how consuming it is and often so amazingly overwhelming that it can take a number of months or even years to find yourself again. You will never be that person that you once were, life is much more complex now but so rewarding at the same time. Finding time to simply be you though, it’s so important. Being Mummy is my life every single day and night, it’s constant, it’s tiring, it leaves me so drained sometimes that my evening cup of tea remains in its cup until morning, left to go cold as I’ve not even had the strength to hold it and simply need to sleep.
Time out is needed. I need to eat dinner in peace sometimes, I need to sit quietly, I need to slob out infront of the TV with MY choice of programme! For me I do struggle to find that time because evenings are when I work but some nights I just have to give in to my body and chill out. Though I mostly work with children, often similar ages to my own, it is a break! As crazy as it sounds! It’s a break from my everyday, from being in my home where something always needs doing and I get called SARAH! Before having children I was called Sarah every single day – on the phone, in emails and to my face. “Sarah would you like a tea? Sarah do you know where that file is?” That pre child me had zero clue about how amazing it is to just be called your name! To eat lunch in peace, to browse the shops, to not be interrupted because someone needed a wee or was hungry. She ate out on a whim, had late night trips to the cinema and often drank way too much! She got up when she wanted at the weekend, she jumped in her car and left straight away without having to buckle in 3 kids and make sure she had spares of everything. She booked random holidays and days out and could basically do whatever she wanted in her spare time. Spare time!
Oh how life has changed.
You know I wouldn’t have it any other way though. It consumes us but it is us. I am Mummy but I’m also so so much more. Making time for the more part is sometimes difficult. Often it requires planning and things can’t be as spontaneous as they once were. We must find time though, we must embrace these crazy amazing lives that we lead. Take a moment, take a few hours or even a day. Do something you love, do something you don’t usually do!
To any brand new mums out there, you may be feeling a little lost right now but you will find yourself again. You are in there, you are amazing and beautiful. Our lives move on, we grow, we find ourselves stronger than we ever thought we could be. Embrace all the changes that Motherhood has given you and trust your instincts. You’re bloody amazing and you’re doing great.
Mums everywhere, you are so important and loved so very much. We all make different choices but this journey through motherhood connects us. Let’s all learn to embrace it!
**Embracing Change – Sessions to remember who you are and to embrace how Motherhood has changed your body and mind coming very soon. **
